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Experiences Family stresses and opportunities Family type Family context Strengths: traits and interaction Commitment Time Together Appreciation Communication Spiritual Values Coping Skills Transition and ongoing support (teen and young adult) Strains External: challenges of economics, physical and mental Internal: family conflict, abuse and neglect, addiction Growing and Healing Learning from experience/being your own person Getting beyond hurt or blame tZ`N)*OJQJ CJOJQJ CJOJQJ5CJOJQJ5 >JYZ|F~ & F & F & F & F$ >JYZ|F~     \^`~ ""##&'(* & F h & F hh & F & Facceptance of partner, children; adult-to-adult exchange reinforcing strengths of growing up experiences [$@$NormalmH <`< Heading 1$@&5CJOJQJ<A@<Default Paragraph Font2>`2Title$5CJOJQJ   Ben SIlliman2C:\WINDOWS\TEMP\AutoRecovery save of Document1.asd Ben SIlliman A:\4foo.doc1Zdv4@}vNC>j|J v(v5?v hhOJQJo( hhOJQJo( 88OJQJo( hhOJQJo( hhOJQJo( hhOJQJo(N|J 4@}5?(1Zd@== vt==@GTimes New Roman5Symbol3& ArialCFComic Sans MS;Wingdings"qh5770$>0L Connectedness Ben SIlliman Ben SIlliman Parent/couple strengths: mutual respect and cooperation, affection and warmth, cooperative problem solving with children: Challenges to family stability and strengthExternal: limited or inadequate income, social isolation or discrimination, natural disastermedical crisis or disability of family member, (chronic hostility, domestic or sibling violence)child (physical, verbal/emotional, sexual)or (permissive parenting, lack of warmth, failure to meet physical/medical needs) (to substances, gambling, work) Living with the Legacies of Family-of-Origin Positive experiences and role models are advantageous for partners in establishing their own partnerships. At the same time, all couples must& Appreciate the difference between what is recalled and what actually happened (i.e., recognize sentiment, inaccurate memories) Develop strategies for building strengths which work for self/partner personalities and interests, new times settings (experiences and examples need to be adapted to circumstances of the present) Work at their relationships themselves (continuous and creative efforts to build today s relationship) Accept and enjoy parents or kin today (rather than value or continue to see them as the role models they were yesterday) Disappointments and conflicts with parents or other family members can extend into adulthood. Even after contact has been lost/cut off, wounds can disable one partner or feed a cycle of hurt with a mate. These dilemmas are especially painful for individuals from abusive families. Steps that can help partners help themselves or each other get beyond the effects or cycles of hurt include: Therapy and/or personal reflection which aids understanding, affirms and supports personal worth, and teaches healthy patterns of interacting. Mentoring relationships with older adults who can guide and support in ways that parents were unable to do. Communication training and enrichment activities with a partner who can help develop positive couple and family experiences in a current relationship.Developed by Ben Silliman, University of Wyoming Cooperative Extension Service Family Life Specialist  [$@$NormalmH <@< Heading 1$@&5CJOJQJ<A@<Default Paragraph Font2>@2Title$5CJOJQJ2B`2 Body Text CJOJQJ;  u;- G_)vXYAstuv @ ;:=!!!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!x!U! 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